Dating Multiple Women Ethically

Can you date multiple women ethically? Well, I can’t answer for you personally, but it is very possible to date many women at once without being a “player,” without lying, cheating, or doing anything wrong.At some points in many men’s lives, as well as women’s lives, they want a lot of attention. They want to date multiple people. For men, this period may last for a long time or even forever. For women, it is not uncommon to have a short period of time when they are seeing, and often having sex with, multiple people. This even happens with some of the seemingly most prudish women.As men, we naturally seem to think that women almost always want committed relationships, and that is not true at all. In fact, often it is the man that wants some commitment first, although we may not think about it in those terms.

Let’s say you are not dating anyone currently, or perhaps have just started dating someone

Do not assume they want any commitment yet at all. They shouldn’t rationally speaking (not that humans are rational). It takes about 6 months at a bare minimum to get to know someone.If you have been dating someone for a day, a week, a month, or longer, it makes absolutely no sense to put on blinders and stop looking. It is idiocy. It is reasonable to date other women, until and unless you decide to have a serious relationship.Honest communication is important, but do you really think if I met a woman on Saturday and we decided to go out next week, that I need to tell her my whole life story and who else I may be dating or that I may be looking online or that I’m going to speed dating event? Of course not!Where it gets tricky is when you have been dating someone (or someones) for a while, for a few months. First of all, women always think it is longer than men do. Again, open and honest communications are essential.

“You are great and I’m really enjoying the time we spend together and getting to know you better,” if true, is a great thing to say. If appropriate, you should also add “and we’ve known each other for only a short period of time, not nearly long enough to make any serious longterm plans, and we should both be open to meeting others as well.” Just tell the truth and mutually set expectations.

You’ll be surprised how many women do not care if you are dating and/or having sex with others. And a lot more will put up with it if you are honest. Not lying and cheating and doing things behind each other’s backs, well that is simply immoral and I’m not suggesting that. However, you do not need (and shouldn’t volunteer everything about you. For example, if you meet a cute new woman, you do not need to tell her you had a hot date last weekend, or that you have a date next Friday night. That is just common sense.