3 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend May Be Drifting Away From Your Relationship

Men have a harder time expressing their emotions than women do.

This results in them not expressing their concerns and issues that they are having in the relationship, which ultimately results in them pulling away because those issues never get fixed.

The truth is you may have to be able to decipher what is wrong for them to talk about it and possibly save the relationship. Whether they don’t want to hurt your feelings or whether they just don’t think the problem is fixable, they may never open up about it unless you confront them.

Here are a few things that may be wrong with your boyfriend and ways you should confront him with it.

1. The commitment level is scaring him.

If you have been doing things like meeting the parents or spending holidays together or anything else that really solidifies you as a couple, then this may be the case.

Moving up on the commitment ladder may make him feel scared and pressured about where the relationship is going. It doesn’t mean he wants the relationship to end, but it does mean that he doesn’t want to make the final decision about a life-time commitment just yet. He may start to avoid activities that he feels will move you even further up the commitment ladder and instead try to make his case by keeping things the way they are or even backing away a bit.

If you think this may be him then try brining up things that suggest the relationship is perfect where it is and don’t add pressure to a life-time commitment – just yet. Assure him that there is no pressure and you are enjoying the relationship right now and right here without concern about the future. He should start to feel less pressure and start to move back to the relationship.

2. He’s trying to avoid an upcoming event.

If he seems to clam up about certain things then he may be avoiding the topic at hand. If he pulls away at certain times then he may be avoiding the anticipated event. Maybe you haven’t had sex yet and he’s scared of how well he will perform when you do finally decide to have it, so he starts to back away so the event doesn’t even have to happen.

Or maybe he doesn’t want you to meet his crazy mother, so he starts to avoid conversation about his family so he doesn’t have to invite you for the next holiday that she wants to meet you at. Avoidance is his way of not dealing with it, even if it means growing apart from you.

If you sense that this is what he is doing then let him know that you care about him no matter what. Assure him that he is perfect just the way he is, even if he has obvious faults, and allow him to be himself. This will show him that you think good about him no matter what and he may be more inclined to do those things he is worried about knowing that your opinion of him is so high.

3. He’s debating whether the relationship is for him or not.

Maybe there is not obvious reason for him to pull away. This could be because he is not sure if he wants to be in the relationship anymore. Of course he will not want to talk to you about this because it would hurt you feelings and possibly start a fight which will end the relationship entirely.

Do not smother him with questions about what is wrong at this point because you may push him away completely. As long as he is not mistreating you, give him a little space and be the positive and happy person you know you are, and let him see how much he would be missing if he left the relationship.