2011 October 13 This means

Communicating in a Long Distance Relationship

Together, but we have found that with the right communication we are enjoying being our long distance relationship and the time that we have together eve more than when we were together all the time.

I never thought that I would say that but it’s true! We are closer because we actually have to communicate instead of saying «Hey!» as we pass each other in the hall or pretend to listen to each other as we watch TV.

Being apart long distance has actually made us appreciate our relationship more, and even though it’s nor a permanent thing for our relationship, I’m glad that it happened.

Here are 5 Tips to Help You Communicate More Effectively in a Long Distance Relationship

1. Have a Set Time to Talk/Skype

We know that we are going to talk on Skype at around supper time, and we both look forward to it! The set time allows us to not worry about then when and how of talking to each other and instead lets us enjoy our day without worrying about why we are not being contact by one another. It’s like having a normal time that you come home from work – in a long distance relationship it’s just a time that you know you can connect.

2. Give Them Your Full Attention

Because there is a long distance between you, and you can’t talk at any given moment of the night, try making your time together important. Really listen to what your partner is sharing with you and you will find that you will grow closer – distance or not.

3. Share, Share, Share…

Just because you have long distance in between you two doesn’t mean you shouldn’t share your day, thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and everything else. Those are all important things in a relationship and help create a bond between two people.
You don’t want the distance to create a separate life from your partner completely! You are in an intimate relationship with them after all, and just because you are doing your laundry separate that doesn’t mean that you should be planning or having a separate life from your partner.

4. Be Positive

Being positive is not only good for your health but it’s also good for the health of a long distance relationship.

If you start off a conversation being negative, keep the conversation negative, and end the conversation negative then you will both be feeling negative after the conversation. It’s not like you two can cuddle before bed to make yourselves feel better. That negatively towards each other will last until the next time you talk.

If you keep the conversation positive then you will find that you will leave the conversation with good feelings about each other, and you will look forward to talking to each other again!

5.   Work out Conflict in The Beginning of the Conversation

In a long distance relationship you have to communicate even when you are mad. If there is conflict at home or in the relationship then work it out in the beginning of the conversation.

Don’t avoid discussing it because the tone of the conversation will stay negative or down, and that will not have you walking away from the conversation with good feelings. Whereas if you work out the negative conflict in the beginning then you can focus on the positive conversation and feelings until next time you talk.