Building confidence with competence You know

People usually want to build confidence like it’s something tangible. Almost like going in the grocery store and getting two buckets of it. If it only worked that way…

However it works another way that is pretty simple. When you get better with something, you feel more confident doing it! Even if sometimes you fail you’ll still feel that confidence in your ability and skills.
Many gurus talk about this, however Dave M took special attention on this in his Insider Internet Dating program.  The concept of competent confidence.

Generally it means you’ll build confidence with practice

Let’s get example outside of the area of dating.

Remember how you start using computer for first time? The strange messages that emerged on the screen? The little fear that you would mess something on the computer? Or an ‘evil virus’ would come and get your personal info? I bet now you sweep as no tomorrow, browsing, e-mailing, watching movies, putting comments on some blogs and so on. You don’t even think about it – it goes almost automatic!

Another more general example – learning how to drive a car. First it was a bit uncomfortable, you had to check the details consciously and after a while it was a whole new experience. You focused on a lot different things since the first don’t take you that much attention anymore.

I think you got the idea. No matter how much you read, watch, listen nothing will build confidence for you better than the practice, especially when you do that consciously.

My story is pretty funny (or maybe not so). I was thinking I know a lot about going out with girls just by
(drum rolls)

reading books

Yea, I know. It took me several experiences to have a whole new level of difference to the moment I feel a lot more confident than most of the girls. And it didn’t took that much time.
You can do this too!

Building Confidence with Competence

You know, people usually want to build confidence like it’s something tangible. Almost like going in the grocery store and getting two buckets of it. If it only worked that way…

It works other way that is pretty simple. You get better with something, you feel more confident doing it! Even if you fail you will still feel that confidence in your ability and skills.

Many gurus talk about this, however Dave M reminded this in his Internet Dating Insider program. The concept of competent confident.

Generally it means you will build confidence with practice. Let’s get example outside of the area of dating.
Remember how you start using computer for first time? The strange messages that emerged on the screen? The little fear that you would damage something on the computer? Or an evil virus would come and get your personal info? I bet now you sweep as no tomorrow, browsing, e-mailing, watching movies, putting comments on some forums. You don’t even think about it – it goes almost automatic.

Another more general example – learning how to drive a car. First it was a bit uncomfortable, you had to check the details consciously and after a while it was a whole new experience. You focused on a lot different things since the first do not take you that much attention anymore.

I think you got the idea. No matter how much you read, watch, listen nothing will build confidence for you better than the practice, especially when you do that consciously.

My story is pretty funny (or maybe not so). I was thinking I know a lot about going out with girls just by
(drum rolls)

reading.

Yea, I know. It took me several experiences to feel a whole new level of difference to the moment I feel a lot more confident than most of the girls. And it didn’t took that much time.